Bisrnillaah ir-Rahmaan ir-Raheem
as- Salaamu ‘alaykum wa Rahmatullaahi wa Barakaatuhu
Making Yourself Weep
Ibn al Qayyim rahmatullah alayh says in Zaad al-Ma’ad (about making yourself weep): “it is sought after to soften the heart and to increase one’s deep fear of Allah subhana wa ta’ala , and it is not for the sake of being heard or seen by the people”
Making yourself weep earns less of a reward than actually weeping. However it is the way towards weeping, that is because the one who makes himself weep, is among those who strive hard and fight their souls, and take account of themselves, and endeavor to attain the pleasure of Allah azza wajal. Allah subhana wa tatala says “And those who strive hard in Us [Allah’s cause] We will surely guide them to our paths.” [29:69]
So whoever strives to make his soul weep, then Allah subhana wa ta’ala will guide this person to sincere weeping and give him success in achieving it.
On the authority of Anas radi Allahu anhu who related that he heard rasulullah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam say “O people weep, for if you cannot weep then make yourself weep. Indeed the inhabitants of the hellfire will weep until their tears pour down their cheeks, as if they were streams until the tears are used up and then blood will pour down, and the eyes will be covered with ulcers.” [hasan in sahih at targheeb wat tarheeb]
Let me intrude here for a second. Now what was said in the above hadith was enough to get me crying right away. Imagine the situation…you run out of tears…you cry your blood. SubhanAllah…don’t think Islam is horrifying and just meaning to scare us….on the contrary, it’s a warning and a chance for us to avoid being in that situation. There is a hadith (I’m not going to narrate exactly) which said that an eye which weeps out of the fear of Allah will never be touched by hellfire. Think about it brothers and sisters… we often forget about what’s going to happen to us because we are so caught up in dunyaa. May Allah have mercy on us and grant us both a heart that fears Him and eyes that weep for His sake. Ameen.
Reflect over the way rasulu1lah sallallahu alayhi wa sallam ordered us to weep or to make ourselves weep. On the authority of Ibn Abi Mulaykah who said “We were sitting with Abdallah ibn Amr radi Allahu anhu on a rock. He said, ‘Cry and if you cannot cry, then make yourself cry. “If only you knew, you would pray until your back broke and cry until you lost your voice.” [alhakim reported in marfu’ form and it is sahih, adhdhahabi states its authenticity, ibn al mubarak reported it in mawquf form]
Start today inshaaAllah, and pounder upon the importance of concentrating in your salah and weeping when you hear the Quraan being read. It’s sad that people cry when they hear poems or songs, but when they read Allah’s words or hear them…it’s like reading a newspaper or just hearing a bunch of words. We don’t know where we are going to be when we die…we don’t even know where we are going to be the next minute or even second of our lives…and if we knew what was going to happen…we would regret every second we wasted in our lives.. . we would regret every fard or sunnah prayers we missed… we would regret every tear we cried over dunyaa matters rather than for Allah’s sake. Something to think about…isn’t it? Make yourself weep.
May Allah guide us all and have mercy on us. Ameen.
*Note: This small reminder is taken from a collection of notes provided by a dear friend.